Have you ever watched your parents while they were asleep? Your father's body, once big and strong but now, the big is withered and the strong is weaker. Wisps of grey peek out from his hair, wrinkles now 'scar' his forehead and face.
This man works hard every day and would sacrifice anything to make sure his family is provided for and his children get the best education possible.
Or how about your mother, whose soft hands once cuddled and held you close when you were a baby? Now, those hands are dry and rough, bearing evidence of the challenges she faced just for us.
This woman takes care of our daily needs, constantly nagging and scolding us because of her love for us. But sadly, we often misconstrue her love as control and unfairness.
I have never thought of watching my parents while they slept. I've watched my brothers sleep when they were babies, all round and cuddly and sweet smelling. But watch my parents? No way!
But after read this message, i realised that there was indeed much truth in it. In fact, my parents do not have to be asleep for me to realise that they have aged.
Just looking at my mother walk tells me that her legs are not as strong as they were before. Or hearing her ask me for help with that flowerpot in the garden, that one she used to be able to puch and drag around the garden without my help.
Or watching my dad lift a 10kg bag of rice. I can easily carry that bag now. I am young. But to him, it is a struggle.
What do all these observations tell me? Yes, my parents have aged. They are ageing, just as I am ageing. But as i age towards my best years and become stronger, they in turn are becoming weaker. They were once the caregivers and I the receiver. in time, i know our roles will reverse. Like it or not, want it to or not, this is life.
I suppose i have always subconsciously thought that my parents would always be with me, never growning old. It took that message to make me realise that my parents are not immortal. That they, too, will one day leave the world and me. Until then, I will make good use of our time together.
By the way, i'm forwarding this message to all my readers to remind them to appreciate what they have now. It will not last....
This man works hard every day and would sacrifice anything to make sure his family is provided for and his children get the best education possible.
Or how about your mother, whose soft hands once cuddled and held you close when you were a baby? Now, those hands are dry and rough, bearing evidence of the challenges she faced just for us.
This woman takes care of our daily needs, constantly nagging and scolding us because of her love for us. But sadly, we often misconstrue her love as control and unfairness.
I have never thought of watching my parents while they slept. I've watched my brothers sleep when they were babies, all round and cuddly and sweet smelling. But watch my parents? No way!
But after read this message, i realised that there was indeed much truth in it. In fact, my parents do not have to be asleep for me to realise that they have aged.
Just looking at my mother walk tells me that her legs are not as strong as they were before. Or hearing her ask me for help with that flowerpot in the garden, that one she used to be able to puch and drag around the garden without my help.
Or watching my dad lift a 10kg bag of rice. I can easily carry that bag now. I am young. But to him, it is a struggle.
What do all these observations tell me? Yes, my parents have aged. They are ageing, just as I am ageing. But as i age towards my best years and become stronger, they in turn are becoming weaker. They were once the caregivers and I the receiver. in time, i know our roles will reverse. Like it or not, want it to or not, this is life.
I suppose i have always subconsciously thought that my parents would always be with me, never growning old. It took that message to make me realise that my parents are not immortal. That they, too, will one day leave the world and me. Until then, I will make good use of our time together.
By the way, i'm forwarding this message to all my readers to remind them to appreciate what they have now. It will not last....
By: SHAKUNTHALA DEVI - THE SUNDAY STAR 2 MARCH 2008
Reading this message in my office email, make me stunned. The tears lingering in my eyes. Yes, as Devi, i never thought about this before but now i did. I did looks at my parent while they are sleeping. And again, it's true my parent are ageing and getting weaker.
How all this times, our parent never give up on loving us no matter how we've hurt them. Their love will never end. I suddenly feels so sorry for all those bad things i've done to my parent. Raised up my voice, disobey them, mad at them or even condemn they on how old fashioned are they.
Me, as been raised up by my uncle, always feels there is a distance between me and my parent. Always feels that they don't care or understand me much as since kid i've been most of the time away from them.
But there was once, my friend adviced me, no matter how do you feels how do you thinks about them, the truth is they are your parent and you should understand love them. From them onward i always try to getting close back to them and now yes i did. Even the certain time i still feels that there is still a gap between us.
Well, parent is something that we never can choose or changed, and as time goes by i trying to love them more and more each day. But one things i never can changed, it hardly for me to said that i love them even deep down in my heart, i really do love them so much...
How all this times, our parent never give up on loving us no matter how we've hurt them. Their love will never end. I suddenly feels so sorry for all those bad things i've done to my parent. Raised up my voice, disobey them, mad at them or even condemn they on how old fashioned are they.
Me, as been raised up by my uncle, always feels there is a distance between me and my parent. Always feels that they don't care or understand me much as since kid i've been most of the time away from them.
But there was once, my friend adviced me, no matter how do you feels how do you thinks about them, the truth is they are your parent and you should understand love them. From them onward i always try to getting close back to them and now yes i did. Even the certain time i still feels that there is still a gap between us.
Well, parent is something that we never can choose or changed, and as time goes by i trying to love them more and more each day. But one things i never can changed, it hardly for me to said that i love them even deep down in my heart, i really do love them so much...
zzzyy-i don't know much but i know i love you mum, dad
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